Narcissistic abuse and the effects it can have on the eating habits of survivors | A Norwich Counsellor Reflects

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Hey. So. Today we’re talking about narcissism.

Trigger warning: narcissistic abuse and eating disorders.

Narcissism is a bit of a buzzword in the counselling scene at the moment. You’ve probably heard of it, if you’re unlucky you might have experienced it, and, if you’re struggling with problems with your eating behaviour, then statistically speaking, there is an especially good chance that you might have survived it.

Narcissism is characterised as excessive self-interest. Someone characterised by narcissism has a desire to attain and preserve reputation at the expense of anything and anyone who might pose a threat. While there can be overlaps in behaviour, this is different from emotional immaturity, where an individual has problems regulating their emotional responses.

Narcissism looks like: a person who consistently acts one way in public (often nicely) and another behind closed doors (often horribly). Narcissism is considered a trauma response. A narcissist is an individual who didn’t get an opportunity to build a sense of their inner world as a child, and so as an adult relies heavily on the people around them to affirm their identity. They often have a ‘source’; someone they spend a lot of time with and focus on to try and control to have their emotional needs met. Narcissists have expectations for the people they spend time with, and if you don’t meet those specific requirements, they will withhold their love and punish you in whatever way they have available to them. Whether through stonewalling (ignoring for extended periods of time), verbal abuse, withholding affection, or attempts to socially ostracize you, they will seek to inflict emotional pain for any perceived slight.

Narcissists function as two different types: grandiose and vulnerable. Grandiose narcissists believe that they’re better than everyone else and deserve special treatment. They’re prone to bullying other people into submission. Vulnerable narcissists believe that they’re really nice, misunderstood victims. They’re prone to guilting other people into submission. Either way, narcissists are thinking about themselves and putting their wants and desires first.

There are a couple of great books on the topic of narcissism if you want to do further research. What I’m hoping to do today is look at the effects of narcissism on the survivors of them, and what impact it might have on their eating behaviours.

How do I know if I’ve survived a narcissist?

The truth is, oftentimes people don’t. They might just notice that they’re extremely anxious, unsure of themselves and who they are, and incredibly drained. Have you noticed that you’ve wanted to sleep for weeks? Do you feel like your life force is seeping away from you every time they’re in proximity? Do you feel like you can’t do anything right? Like you’re a monster? Do you feel like you’re in a state of confusion? Then there is a good chance you’ve experienced a narcissist.

Narcissists thrive on confusion. They hold grudges indefinitely. They go out of their way to misunderstand you. You want to talk about your feelings and how they hurt you? Well, you hurt them! You’re always hurting them! You’re so selfish!

This is an illustration of a classic, well used tactic referred to as DARVO. Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender. You raise a concern? They deny that it’s true, attack you of what you’re suggesting they did, and then say that, actually, they’re the victim.

Not everyone who uses the DARVO method is a narcissist; they might just be emotionally immature, but if you notice this as a pattern and the person you’re communicating with consistently avoids accountability at all possible cost, then there’s a good chance you’re trying to communicate with someone who cares more about the idea they have of themselves than they do of you and your experience.

The impact of the narcissism in terms of eating problems varies, but there does tend to be a trend.

Survivors will try and use food as a way of trying to gain a sense of control after their sense of self has been stripped away from them. For example, they might restrict until they feel ‘good enough,’ or they might use food as a way to comfort themselves and soothe the pain that being consistently emotionally neglected and misunderstood has caused.

Narcissistic abuse leaves the sufferer feeling empty, confused, and in a state of shock.

When your emotional boundaries have been consistently overstepped (or just trashed), it makes sense that food would be used as a way to regain a sense of autonomy. We feel safety, or lack of it, in our stomach. Food is an incredibly effective tool for either regrounding the stomach (by creating a weight in the gut where there may be a void), or as a way of creating emptiness in a stomach that may feel void. So, it makes complete sense that we may seek emptiness or fullness in the place where our emotional anchor would usually be. Equally, people struggling with bulimia may have found that they’re in such a state of confusion that the only way they know how to deal with the pain is to fill their stomachs up and then empty them again in a seemingly endless cycle.

The good news there is a way to rebalance and regulate again.

If you could benefit from support, reach out to me and we can arrange a 20 minute free introductory call. Talking really, really helps.

Why Do I Think About Food All the Time?| A Norwich Counsellor Explains

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Mary had just had breakfast, and now she was thinking about lunch.

I had two eggs, two pieces of toast, butter, and some spinach. That’s healthy, right? That’s fine.

She looked at the clock. Four more hours until lunch.

What was she going to have?

A burger? That would be nice.

No, wait. She’d had fish and chips last night. She couldn’t have a burger today too. Too unhealthy.

Pasta? No. Too carby.

Carbs were bad.

She tapped her fingers on her desk, trying to focus on work.

Maybe a meal deal? Tuna salad?

A familiar sense of anxiety crept in. She didn’t know what she was supposed to have.

I should have packed lunch, she thought, remorsefully.

But yesterday she’d packed lunch and eaten it early, feeling frustrated with herself as she did so. Why couldn’t she just stick to the plan? She berated herself.

She’d have to wait.

Urg.

For some people, thoughts about food can feel relentless like this. Planning, analysing, replaying what you’ve eaten, trying to figure out what you can and can’t have, when you should eat, whether you’ve “got it right.”

This sometimes gets referred to as food noise.

And it can be exhausting.

The understandable assumption can be that the solution is more control:

If I just plan better…
If I’m stricter…
If I eat more “cleanly”…
then the mental noise will go away.

But often, the opposite happens.

Sometimes preoccupation grows where deprivation exists.

Research has long suggested that when the mind or body perceives scarcity, food can take up more mental space, not less. Restriction, physical or psychological, can make food take up more mental space, especially when eating feels tied to worth, goodness, or getting things right.

If your eating or exercise feel tied to what they say about you as a person, it makes sense you might become increasingly focused on trying to control them, and in doing so, become more fixated on them.

In other words, constant thoughts about food may not be a sign of greed or lack of willpower.

They may be a response to a desire to try and ‘get things right’ or be a ‘good’ or ‘acceptable’ person.

And sometimes it isn’t only about restriction.

Sometimes thoughts about food can act a bit like a scapegoat.

Food can carry emotional weight; food as a scapegoat.


A scapegoat is something that takes the blame for something deeper that feels harder to face.

For example, if I tell myself my distress is because I ate “badly,” I may not have to look at the anxiety, overwhelm, loneliness or self-doubt I’m carrying.

In this sense, food can sometimes become a place where difficult emotions are directed or expressed.

I might think I’m preoccupied with food, when underneath I may be struggling with:

  • anxiety
  • stress
  • overwhelm
  • chaos
  • feeling not quite good enough
  • numbness

Sometimes the thoughts may be about food.

And sometimes food is carrying something else.

And I might be using food as a way to try and justify that feeling. So, in this instance, it may feel like if I can control my diet and/or those difficult feelings might go away.

Which raises a deeper question:

So is it really food you’re thinking about?

Or could some of the mental noise be about:

  • getting things right
  • feeling okay
  • feeling in control
  • feeling good enough

In this sense, sometimes food thoughts are not really about food at all.

Rules can make food louder.

When food becomes organised into “good” and “bad,” “allowed” and “forbidden,” it can become charged.

And often, what is forbidden becomes mentally louder.

What we fight for control over can begin to dominate attention.

What if the thoughts are communicating something?

Perhaps the question is not only:

How do I stop thinking about food?

But:

What might these thoughts be telling me about how I’m feeling?

Because food may be taking up space in your mind for a reason.

And approaching that with curiosity, rather than shame, can sometimes act as a gateway for self understanding.

Sometimes the question is not simply how to stop thinking about food, but what those thoughts may be trying to communicate. Because food may be taking up space in your mind for a reason.

Maybe What You Need Isn’t More Advice, But Someone to Listen

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In the 1980s, if you wanted to receive advice on how to grow a tomato, you probably had to talk to someone, or go to the library and get out a book on the topic. The time frame between wanting to grow the tomato and getting the information on how to grow said tomato might be a week or so. That’s provided that you knew someone, or the library had the book you wanted in stock, and that there was enough information available on the said topic. You might still feel confused when you read the book; perhaps it wasn’t written well enough, or didn’t have enough diagrams for you to understand. In which case, maybe you’d sign up for a course, or try to find an expert to speak to.

These days, information has never, ever been easier to attain. Especially if you know how to use a phone. With the click of a few buttons, and/or maybe the use of an AI website, you can pretty much guarantee some decent information on any chosen subject, and the option to clarify anything you don’t understand. Information is no longer rare or difficult to access.

Given the abundance of resources, there is a really, really good chance that you already know what the problem is, and you already know what you should (at least in theory) be doing. The issue usually isn’t about information, it’s usually more about the experience of being isolated and frustrated. You might be surrounded by people, but does it feel like you can relax and talk about your struggles without being interrupted, or advised to do things you already know about?

You may know that you’re low, or that you’re stuck in a binge-loop cycle. You may have already read up on it, and have good insight into what needs to be done. But doing anything on your own in life is tough. Accountability and care are the difference between the idea of doing something and the reality of living it. Especially when you hit a dip, or change starts feeling exhausting and painful, and your coping mechanisms seem more attractive than the idea of a different life.

Talking is cathartic and being able to hear your own voice explain the problem can help you solve it. I’ve seen it enough times now to know that it works.  

“Why do I feel guilty after eating?”

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In order to answer this question, it can help to slow down and ask: what does guilt actually feel like? What is it?

Guilt is often experienced as a sense as the sinking, anxious feeling that we’ve done something wrong, alongside a sense of not wanting to be found out. At its core, guilt is relational. Historically, when we lived in close-knit communities, being excluded could threaten our survival. So guilt developed as a way of keeping us within the “rules” of the group.

Because of this, guilt tends to show up when we feel we’ve broken some kind of code, whether that’s spoken or unspoken. It can bring up a fear of being judged, criticised, or shamed.

When it comes to food, those “rules” are often learned over time.

You might have grown up being told to finish everything on your plate, to avoid snacks, or that certain foods should only be eaten at certain times. You might have been told that certain bodies were acceptable, and others weren’t. Later on, you might have created your own rules based on how you want your body to look or how you think you should eat, perhaps around calories, portions, or “good” and “bad” foods.

Once a rule exists, breaking it can bring guilt.

That guilt might come with thoughts that sound familiar:
“I’m greedy”
“I have no self-control”
“I can’t stick to anything”

Or it might not come with words at all. Just a tight, and/or heavy, uncomfortable feeling, and a sense, in that moment, that you don’t quite like yourself.

Food guilt is incredibly common because of how normal it is to have rules around food.

Most people have dieted, or been around dieting. Most people have absorbed ideas about what’s “good” or “bad” to eat. Many of us were given messages about food growing up, even if they weren’t meant harmfully.

So it makes sense that guilt can show up here.

But often, it’s not really about the food. We may know that what we’re doing is objectively not wrong, we may still judge ourselves. We can use food, and the control of it, to try and feel better or differently about our lives and selves.

Underneath, food guilt can be connected to much deeper things:

  • a need for control
  • a sense of safety
  • feelings about worth
  • a desire to feel “good enough”

Sometimes, we begin to tie our self-worth to what we do. The idea becomes: if I can get this right, if I can eat perfectly, then maybe my body will change, and I’ll feel okay about myself.

But when that doesn’t happen (which it inevitably won’t, because these rules are often rigid or unrealistic), the feeling doesn’t just disappear. Instead, it can reinforce the belief that we’re failing in some way.

And so the cycle continues.

Your relationship with food can often reflect your relationship with yourself.

It can tell us something about how you see yourself, and what you believe you’re worth.

And that’s why simply trying to “fix” eating behaviours doesn’t always resolve the guilt. Because the feeling often isn’t just about the food: it’s about something deeper that’s asking to be understood.

And this is where counselling can help.

Not by giving you more rules, or telling you what you should be doing with food, but by creating space to understand what’s underneath it all.

If food feels complicated, or if guilt is something you’re carrying often, you don’t have to figure it out on your own.

This is an area I specialise in, and something I care deeply about. I work with people to gently explore their relationship with food, but also who they are beyond it, what matters to them, how they see themselves, and how they might begin to relate to themselves in a different way.

If that resonates, you’re very welcome to get in touch.

What If It’s Not About the Food? | A Norwich Counsellor Explains

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Michelle was beautiful, not just physically, but in the way she thought, spoke, and related to others. She was funny, kind, and seemed to know exactly what to say at the right moment. She was a deep thinker and insightful in a unique way. But she never felt it for herself.

Whatever she did, it was never enough. If she ran two miles today, it had to be three tomorrow. If she ate “well” today, she had to do the same, or better, the next. The goalposts kept moving. Even when she reached her goal weight (more than once) the same feelings of inadequacy remained.

Nothing changed, because the way that she felt about herself didn’t change.

So, it’s not just what you do. It’s how you feel about yourself.

You can strive, achieve, and push yourself forward. But how do you feel when you wake up in the morning? How do you feel when you’re alone? Before you start something new, meet someone new, or start a new challenge?

Do you only feel okay when you’ve achieved something? Or can you feel at ease in moments where nothing is being proved?

I don’t believe any eating behaviour is inherently bad in itself.

You can track calories, restrict, eat past fullness, eat “clean,” or eat ultra-processed food, and none of these behaviours alone define a problem. What matters is the meaning behind them.

Are you doing what you’re doing because it brings you joy? Or because you’re trying to fix, control, or make yourself acceptable?

Is food, or the control of it, becoming a way to try to like yourself and your life?

How you feel about yourself, and your life, is where the work really begins.

Why trying to control your eating might be making things feel worse | A Norwich Counsellor Explains

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Why trying to control your eating might be making things feel worse

If control worked, it would have worked by now.

You tell yourself today will be different. You’re going to be “good”. You’ll get your steps in, drink the water, track everything. At first, perhaps you feel steady; Contained, reassured, peaceful, maybe even hopeful.

But by mid-afternoon, something shifts. The cravings come in; persistent, hard to ignore. You have some chocolate.

And almost immediately, something else follows. A wave of guilt. Anxiety. A sense that something has gone wrong. From there, the rules lose their footing. The day takes on a different shape. By evening, you might feel full, uncomfortable, and disconnected from yourself.

And so the cycle continues.
On, off. Trying again. Starting over.

When I sit with clients, I’m often reminded of that game where you guide a metal loop along a wire.
The aim is simple: don’t let it touch the sides.

But the moment it does, you can hear a loud beeping noise. Argh. Back to the beginning.

It’s tense, asks for constant precision, and it’s exhausting to sustain.

So it can be worth asking:

When did this need for control begin?
What was happening at the time?
What does “being in control” actually mean to you?

Because, what if your patterns of eating aren’t failures?

What if something in you is trying to respond: to soothe, to regulate, to manage something that feels difficult to contain? To find joy when life feels heavy? Or grounding when life feels like it’s too exhilarating?

Our relationship with food can tell us a great deal about our relationship with ourselves.

In my experience, our relationship with food is the tip of the ice berg. It’s a symptom, not the problem in and of itself. For example, if you restrict, you might be feeling lost and overwhelmed. Or if you binge, maybe you might need release and more creativity in your life. There might not be a clear answer in this moment, but it can be worth pausing to reflect on what we might be trying to experience outside of a different body type.

When things feel uncertain, or overwhelming, how do we meet ourselves in those moments?

And what might we learn if, instead of tightening control, we became a little more curious about what’s underneath?

Because it may not be about food at all. It may be about how we’re trying to find peace.

Disordered Eating and Attachment: A Relational Perspective

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When I think about disordered eating in my work, I often notice an emphasis on eating behaviour as something that needs to be altered and controlled.

Meal plans.
Movement changes.
A focus on doing things “right.”

Alongside this, I often find myself thinking about something else: how someone relates to themselves, to others, and to their emotional world.

Looking beyond food

During my Understanding Your Eating core training with Julia Buckroyd, I was introduced to the idea of understanding eating in relation to attachment.

Since then, I’ve often noticed that when I meet a new client, there can be a certain level of predictability in how early relationships relate to a person’s current relationship with food.

This offers a lens, rather than an explanation.

Attachment Theory explores how our early relationships shape the way we experience:

  • closeness
  • safety
  • emotional need

Over time, we develop patterns, often outside of awareness, around:

  • whether it feels safe to rely on others
  • how we manage distress
  • how we respond to our own needs

These patterns continue into adulthood, shaping how we relate to others and to ourselves.

Attachment patterns (in simple terms)

Broadly speaking, attachment can show up in a few different ways:

Secure
Relationships tend to feel stable and predictable. There is often a sense of self-worth, and an ability to seek support when needed.

Anxious
Relationships can feel uncertain. There may be a fear of abandonment, and a tendency to become highly attuned to others in order to maintain connection.

Avoidant
Relationships may feel overwhelming. There can be a tendency to suppress emotional needs and rely heavily on oneself.

Anxious/Avoidant
A mix of both: seeking closeness, and then pulling away when it begins to feel intense.

Where eating patterns fit

Eating patterns often show up in response to emotional experiences.

Before a binge, restriction, or strong urge around food, many people notice a shift in how they’re feeling.

Food can become a way of:

  • soothing distress
  • creating a sense of control
  • moving attention away from difficult emotions

There is also a biological element, eating and restriction can both influence endorphins, which can temporarily shift how we feel.

Over time, these eating patterns can become familiar ways of responding.

How attachment may shape eating

This is not a set of fixed categories, but a way of noticing patterns:

Secure attachment
Feelings are more tolerable, and support can be sought when needed. Eating tends to feel more intuitive and less emotionally driven.

Anxious attachment

  • heightened emotional intensity
  • sensitivity to relationships
  • difficulty self-soothing

Eating may become a way to regulate distress, particularly when linked to loneliness or relational triggers. Patterns can feel cyclical.

Avoidant attachment

  • emotional suppression
  • discomfort with dependence
  • strong self-reliance

Eating may become more controlled or restrictive, with a sense of distance from hunger cues.

Anxious/Avoidant attachment

  • conflicting needs around closeness
  • emotional overwhelm

Eating patterns may feel more changeable, with cycles of different behaviours and a strong sense of internal tension.

Making sense of it

This way of thinking can help bring understanding to something that often feels confusing.

Many people experience shame in relation to food and their body. When eating patterns are viewed in the context of emotional experience and relationships, they can begin to feel more understandable.

Over time, this can support a shift towards:

  • recognising emotional needs
  • understanding patterns more clearly
  • developing a more compassionate relationship with yourself

A therapeutic perspective

In my work, I don’t focus on identifying a specific attachment style.

Instead, I support people in understanding themselves more deeply, and in coming into a more compassionate relationship with who they are.

Very often, the relationship someone has with food has developed for a reason, and that reason is often survival.

It can be helpful to explore:

  • what you are feeling
  • what you might be needing
  • what the behaviour is doing for you

A final thought

Eating problems are more common than people realise.

They can be understood, and they can change.

With time, it is possible to develop ways of relating to yourself and your needs that feel more steady and supportive.

Disordered Eating and Person-Centred Counselling

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My work is primarily focused on disordered eating. In this blog, I offer a short overview of how person-centred counselling can support those experiencing it.

It’s helpful to begin with a shared understanding of what we mean by an eating disorder. The National Health Service defines eating disorders as “a serious, treatable mental health condition characterised by disturbed eating patterns, such as extreme restriction, bingeing, or purging, paired with an obsession with weight, body shape, or food.”

Importantly, the NHS also emphasises that eating disorders are not simply about food. They are ways of coping with distress that can have significant physical, emotional, and social consequences.

In that sense, eating disorders are not really about food. They are about finding a way to manage something that feels overwhelming.

It can be helpful to think of eating, weight, or the body as a kind of scapegoat. If there is something external to focus on, something that feels controllable, it can offer a sense of structure or even relief. If my distress can be explained by my body, then I have something concrete to work on, something I can try to fix.

For example, after a painful breakup, it may feel easier to focus on changing your body than to sit with loss, rejection, or grief. The hope might be: if I change my body, my life will change too. Often, the desire to change our bodies is not really about appearance, and rarely about health. It is more about wanting to feel differently: more in control, more secure, or more acceptable.

Where does person-centred counselling come in?

Person-centred counselling is a way of working that places you at the centre of your own experience.

Rather than focusing on fixing behaviours or giving advice, we work together to understand what sits underneath them. This means creating space to explore your thoughts, feelings, and experiences, particularly those that may sit outside of food.

There is no shortage of advice when it comes to eating disorders. Many people arrive at counselling already carrying a wealth of knowledge about what they “should” be doing. What is often missing is not information, but space; to think, to make sense of what feels overwhelming, and to understand how your relationship with food and body image may be helping you cope.

In a person-centred approach, you are not treated as a problem to be solved, but as a person to be understood. As that understanding develops, your relationship with yourself can begin to shift. From there, change can start to feel possible.

There is much more that can be said on this topic. If you’re struggling with your eating behaviours, you’re welcome to get in touch through my Counselling Directory profile.

Do I Need Counselling? A Norwich Counsellor Explains

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Many people looking for counselling in Norwich ask this question. They wonder whether their difficulties are challenging enough to talk to someone about.

I think this is a great question.

My initial thoughts are: what constitutes a need, and what constitutes a want? When does something become essential, and when is it simply something that might be useful? How do you know when the desire for support becomes urgent, and does it have to be urgent in order to be worth having?

To begin answering this question, it might be helpful to consider what counselling offers.

Counselling can provide:

  • A safe space that is focused entirely on you and your life.
  • A weekly, consistent place to discuss and process what matters to you.
  • The knowledge that you will be respected, cared for, and rooted for.
  • A relationship with someone whose only aim is to walk alongside you.

With that in mind, we might think about the times when that kind of space becomes particularly helpful, or perhaps even essential.

For example:

  • When you feel stuck or overwhelmed, unsure where to turn or what the next steps in life might be.
  • When you feel like you’ve tried many options but are becoming exhausted or discouraged.
  • When significant relationships break down and you’re experiencing heartbreak, conflict. You might benefit from someone you can talk about the same person or situation without ever being told to “move on.”
  • When you notice yourself repeating the same patterns again and again, perhaps feeling caught in cycles around food, smoking, gambling, or other behaviours you wish you could change.
  • When you feel lonely or isolated, even if there are people around you.

These are just some of the reasons people come to counselling.

However, even if nothing major is happening in your life, it can still be valuable to have a space to talk, to understand yourself better, and to make sense of your experiences.

You don’t have to be struggling deeply or in crisis to come to counselling. There is no pressure to arrive with difficult problems or to justify why you are there. You might come simply to reflect, to explore, or even to celebrate parts of your life.

However you arrive, you are welcome.

Many people imagine that you need to be in crisis to begin counselling. In reality, people often come because something simply doesn’t feel quite right in their lives.

If you’re curious about counselling, you’re very welcome to contact me for an initial conversation. As a person-centred counsellor in Norwich, I offer a warm and confidential space where you can explore whatever feels important to you.

What Happens in Person-Centred Counselling? A Norwich Counsellor Explains

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What Happens in Person-Centred Counselling? A Norwich Counsellor Explains

If you’re thinking about starting counselling, you might be wondering what actually happens in a session.

You might be unsure what you’re supposed to say, whether you’ll be judged, or what the counsellor will expect from you.

These are completely natural questions.

In this article, I’ll offer a short introduction to person-centred counselling, and what it can feel like to sit in the room together.

A Different Kind of Conversation

Person-centred counselling can feel quite different from what people expect.

You don’t need to prepare anything in advance. There’s no pressure to explain everything clearly, and there’s no “right” place to start. You can begin wherever you are.

Sometimes that might be something that happened this week. Other times it might be a feeling you can’t quite put into words yet. That’s okay too.

“Will You Tell Me What To Do?”

This is one of the most common questions people have.

In person-centred counselling, I won’t tell you what to do or give direct advice.

Instead, my role is to listen carefully, without judgement, and to understand your experience as fully as I can.

The idea is that, when you feel truly heard, something begins to shift. You may start to understand yourself more clearly, and from there, find your own way forward.

What Does a Session Feel Like?

Sessions are shaped around you.

I aim to offer a warm, supportive, and non-judgemental space where you can speak openly about whatever is on your mind.

There may be moments where I reflect things back to you, or offer a prompt if you feel stuck. At other times, there may simply be space to think, feel, and process.

There’s no pressure to fill every silence.

You Are the Expert in Your Own Life

At the heart of person-centred counselling is a simple belief: you are the expert in your own life.

Even if things feel confusing right now, or you’re unsure what you need, there is value in your experience and your perspective.

My role is not to lead, but to walk alongside you as you make sense of things in your own way.

Taking the First Step

Starting counselling can feel like a big step, especially if you’re not sure what to expect.

You don’t need to have everything figured out before you begin.

If you’re curious about person-centred counselling, or wondering whether it might be right for you, you’re very welcome to get in touch.

I offer counselling in Norwich and online, and I’d be happy to answer any questions you may have.